Poor Sheldon! At least he recognizes the importance of making friends, right? You’ve heard the saying, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”. Another saying in the same vein is, “Show me your friends, I’ll show you your future”. I believe this wholeheartedly.
I’m stealing this idea and generalizing it to another area. I believe that the degree to which you are generous/kind equates to the generosity/kindness of the people around you. If my theory is true, it would be physically impossible for me not to be a nice person. I have the absolute most generous people in my life. Can you believe that recently I received gifts from two different friends for absolutely no reason within 24 hours? Seriously. Two gifts (not for my birthday, not for Christmas) from two different people in two different cities in two separate gorgeous gift bags stuffed with cute tissue paper. It just isn’t fair. I don’t deserve the generosity I receive on a daily basis. It inspires me to bless others all.day.long!
I have friends who send me written notes of encouragement. I have friends who send me text messages that say exactly the right thing at exactly the right time. I have friends who are foster parents. I have friends who adopt children from all over the world. I have friends who visit the sick. I have friends who serve the homeless. I have friends who feed the hungry. I am blessed to be friends with some of the kindest, most generous people on the planet.
Two years ago, I participated in the Chazown workshop at my church. Our pastor says, “Everyone ends up somewhere. Few people end up somewhere on purpose”. It was through this experience that I created my Chazown statement. It is basically my personal mission statement. It goes like this: “My Chazown is to passionately lead and encourage women (sorry guys- don’t tune out) to pursue excellence and inspire them to demonstrate acts of irrational generosity in everyday life”.
One of my action steps for bringing my Chazown to life was to start a lifegroup that would help me to live out this mission. One of my BFFs, Natalie, and I started the Love Gives life group (unlike Jen Hatmaker, Natalie is a real life best friend of mine). This is the description of our group: “Love Gives is a lifegroup for women who share a passion for leading the way with irrational generosity in everyday life…Various books, lessons and activities will be used to explore what it means to be a missionary in our own neighborhood”.
Do you long for more meaningful relationships, or to be more intentional in showing your love for others, or to show more kindness to strangers or to feel more hopeful? “Join the club”. Or, start your own. Surround yourself with people who inspire you, encourage you and share a desire to lead the way with irrational generosity. Simply hang out with super nice people!
Who are the kindest and most generous people you know? I hope they are among the 5 people you spend the most time with. If not, reach out to them (without applying Sheldon’s algorithm, of course). Cultivate that relationship. Meet them for coffee. Meet them for lunch. Start a book club. Start a bible study. Show me your friends, I’ll show you your future.
Be a blessing today.